Or when you get perceived that you're an annoying parent by bringing the stroller, into a shop or wherever
Oatie is our 3rd child so I've had the "normal" taking 2 kids out on errands shopping etc etc before and have the comparison of having our gorgeous Oatie as our 3rd and notice the difference in I suppose before and after. Or before and after finding out about his disability. I'm not complaining, but just food for thought, just popping into the grocery store or going out for a family walk even with a toddler, you with an able bodied family take it for granted, the ease of just going out and just doing. When you have to allow for "wheels" you can't just go as easily, you need planning. My friend invited us to go camping, I so wanted to take the kids, but then thought, terrain, handicap, not just yet. I'm not saying never, as I do feel that just because one has a handicap you can't achieve, I used to love watching the London Marathon and the wheelies cream all the runners on time, or a hero of mine Terry Fox. I suppose the time frame for what you'd be able to do activity wise as a family of able bodies, you have to move your perspective a bit back say a year or two or even three to something that's more realistic. Sure, I'm an experience camper, I could have taken them, but would Oatie have enjoyed it at this stage? Any maybe another young family of 3 kids with a disabled 3rd might have achieved it with success, but every family dynamic is different and in someway I feel that we're all still having to adjust, and even though Oatie can't convey all his opinions fluently as he would wish, but he does have them and preferences and yes I could have taken the older two, but on the other side I'm done with leaving him out.
All I can say is Thank you to ABR, for helping these wonderful children, reach their potential, and for Oatie, ABR technique is keeping him pain free so far and twisted limb free so far and increased mobility. And for being there for the parents too, they are just so nice and so understanding, I wish there were more people like the folks at ABR in the world, they to me are like Angels without visible halo's.